Closure is like a Hooker

Closure is overrated. Have you ever heard yourself say, ‘I was okay with her leaving me, but all I was asking was for some closure!’ Oh shut up, dude! Grow a pair!

Here is the thing. We have all been there. We are the Templar Knights who went looking for the elusive Holy Grail or the Fountain of Youth, or whatever the fuck people looked for and never got! But the funny part about closure is that it’s not that big a deal. In the ‘philosophical’ definition of things, closure is about coming to terms with reality, realizing that what has happened has happened and you need to let go. In the words of a friend of mine, who still sucks his thumb while he sleeps what closure really means is: Fucking moving on, dude!

So what exactly is this weird thing: Closure. Why do you need it? Where do you find it? The sad part is it all of this was conveniently missed out in all the moral stories we grew up ‘learning’ from. Oh wait. Maybe not. There was that one, the one with the fox who tried getting those grapes and never did, yeah! What happened in the end? Oh yes, he walked away saying: The Grapes were sour! Perfect! Isn’t that closure? Maybe.  So are you telling me that closure is actually about fooling yourself?

Of course, it is! Everything we have been doing so far is fooling someone or the other! ‘I will study for this semester’ or ‘Sure dude, you are my best friend, I won’t hit on your ex-girlfriend’ or the best so far, ‘I love you’. So maybe, closure too is fooling oneself. Hell, every movie we have watched says that everything is but Illusion and Dream. From Nolan’s fuck all movies to Fincher’s well.. uhmm.. movies? Well.. they have all said it. Now you see me, now you don’t!

But that’s just the ‘i-give-up-ist’ view of everything. Whatever the Wachowski brothers have to say, I still believe that our existence is real and tangible. The moment when you read a good book and it makes you wanna write one! The moment when you sit in the rain, drinking tea and maybe smoking that cigarette! The li’l flutter you feel when the girl you wanna ask out pings you on WhatsApp! The moment when you just sit and talk to a good friend about how trippy painkillers can be and that insane moment when you hold a month old kid in your arm and it stops crying. It looks up at you and it smiles, maybe it does not know what a ‘smile’ is, maybe it was just a muscle spasm, but you still believe it’s a smile. Illusion and dream? Don’t think so.

Then there is the question of why do you need it. We are fucking humans. We want to curl up in a corner and cry ourselves to sleep over everything.  Love, career, parents, peers, friends, enemies! Man, we have issues! But then, we can’t ignore closure. It makes us feel good.

There may be a man who finds closure as his fingers run over steely build of his guitar. There may be those who find closure in dreams. There are those who find closure in knowing. Knowing what went wrong, knowing what happened! ‘Was it my fault?’, because to some people it is about: I Know Therefore I Am. To some, closure could be in knowing that the girl he loved now looks like a deranged drug addict. To some(like Adele), it would be in knowing that they are doing well. To some, it is about looking in the mirror and knowing what you are worth. The song of Poets of the Fall goes: My worth is the look in yours, my prize the smile playing tricks on your lips! And that’s the shitty part, when you see your own worth in someone else’s eyes and that’s when you need closure.  Then there is the closure of knowing that you are in a better place. Try stalking your girlfriend/boyfriend on Facebook and run through all their pictures. It will feel good. Real good. Just to know what you have with you now.

Closure is like a hooker. You find them in the most unexpected places and if they are worth the money, it 

feels fucking good!

Hence Screwed!